Being a teenager is not easy for you. You are going through a process of change and self-identification and you are defining your identity and place in the world. Yes, not fitting in is the major cause of low confidence and teenage low self-esteem issues at your age.
It is natural and normal to feel the way you do. What is not good is dwelling on them. You cannot feel good about yourself by forcing yourself to fit in, by doing what doesn't come natural to you.
So, one way to fit in, to find your social space, and at the same time honor yourself is to find "your thing". What do I mean by that? Try enrolling in as many things as you can: drama club, music club, orchestra, sports, science clubs, gyms and athletic clubs etc. Find where you fit in naturally, find what you love to do, what you are good at.
This in itself will build up your confidence and self-esteem. You will also meet and be able to socialize with people with similar interest to yours, which will in turn increase your confidence even more.
1. Speak positively to yourself and reduce your self-criticism.
2. Focus on what you do best and feel it empowering you.
3. Aim at being your best self.
4. Avoid "perfection" by seeing what it really is - a trap to never feel good about oneself because perfection can never be achieved.
5. Don't focus on your shortcomings and mistakes - see if you can learn something from your actions.
6. Empower and expand your potential by doing new things.
7. Enroll in a fitness or martial-art school.
8. Set achievable goals with deadlines and actually do them.
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