Lack of Assertiveness: How to be More Assertive (At a job interview)

An assertive person is a confident person. Usually, people that lack assertion, lack confidence as well. Check the best solutions for improving your confidence.

If you are not used to being assertive, it might be necessary for you to remind yourself not to give in. Whenever your assertiveness is about to be tested, think encouraging thoughts and remind yourself to stand your ground. Think of yourself as a Spartan warrior: No retreat, no surrender. Seriously, it helps.

Do not yell or scream. That's not assertive, that's aggressive. Maintain a calm and confident voice. If that's not your strong suit, practice in front of a mirror.

When someone is talking to you, look them in the eyes (but don't make it weird; every now and then look at something else) and let them know you are hearing what they are saying. If you like what they are saying, smile, if not, frown. That will let them know that you are paying attention and the way you feel about a certain subject.

This will allow you to observe your non-verbal communication and adjust it accordingly. It will also make you more relaxed in real situations as it won't feel weird or unusual for you. It takes some time to get accustomed to your own assertiveness.

Show your potential employer that you are genuinely interested in this job. Ask about your responsibilities, company's short-term and long-term plans, etc. It will show your potential employer that you want to fit in and do your best for the company.

Don't be afraid to talk with your potential employer about possible projects or problem you might encounter. Let him/her know in what ways you would tackle them and what can you bring to this company.

A job interview is not the time to be humble. You don't have to brag or lie about your achievements, but feel free to state what you have done for your previous employers, what projects have you been working on, and what exactly did you do to make projects successful. If you worked with a team, give your team credit as well.

Think of all the possible questions your potential employer might ask you and prepare an intelligent and confident answer. Learn about the company and about the position you are applying for.

An assertive person can speak freely about his/her flaws and is not afraid of admitting lack of knowledge or experience in certain areas. Your potential employer will know you are dishonest if you keep saying that you excel in everything there is.

Looking like a deer in front of headlights certainly won't help you land that dream job you are hoping for. Answering questions with only "yes" or "no" is another sure way that your potential will not consider you for the position. Practice with a friend or a family member to get rid of any fear or anxiety you might have.