How to get a Tinder date (I'm a female)

This will put most men off. Instinctively men react negatively towards girls who have company. So if you have loads of photos of you and your past boyfriends and guy friends, you are basically putting up a huge sign that says,” I'm taken”.

Even if the photo is actually a brother or relation or gay friend, it doesn't matter, you know these facts, but someone only making a decision on you within a split second with only these photos to go on, will not know. And most men will decide to avoid you.

Try having only girls within your photos, ensuring your main one is focused just on you.

Just a photo of a poster, or you pulling a crazy jokey face is going to get you the minimal level of likes / right swipes from guys. For girls it's different, a guy can be attractive if he's really funny, and also honestly girls tend to scan other photos in a profile more often, so for a guy to lead with a joke photo is not such a bad idea.

However girls leading with them is Tinder suicide. Guys on average will not give you more than 1 second of time to decide what kind of swipe you are, so if you put up a joke that is too hard to understand within an instant, or a photo of you making a funny face that is not very flattering, you as basically asking for 95% of guys to pass on you.

Try making your first photo a simple one that shows you off in a good conventional way, and add the jokes in your other photos for those that are interested.

Although most people like to act like they appreciate “nice” guys or girls, the fact is you might see more matches come from a more provocative leading photo. More matches means more opportunities for dates.

If you're a guy try a meaner more serious look. If you're a girl try a pout or getting more supported cleavage involved.

These techniques might sound a bit strong or cliche but the fact is the vast majority of people on Tinder are young, and on there to have a bit of a laugh and take a fun approach to dating. Try it out and see how offering sexier photos of yourself can impact your engagement.

It's common that the people you end up dating tend to be those you have the longest text conversations with out of all your matches. So to improve your chances be engaging by thinking of new things to talk about, instead of letting conversations fade out.

If matches are rare for you then you need to consider each one as a very precious opportunity that deserves time and attention.

A couple days of radio silence can kill a text conversation dead, so keep it going with questions, new comments and interesting ideas that are hard to ignore.

The start of a conversation on Tinder is your first impression, so the first few lines you say are vitally important. They set the tone for the rest of your relationship with this match. So avoid just saying “hey, hi, or how you doing?”, these are boring and won't spark interest right away.

Try picking out parts of someone's bio that gets your attention, giving unique compliments and putting effort into writing an interesting short and sweet introduction to yourself.

Try this with all of your new matches for a week at least, and see if things progress more effectively.

If you have not subscribed, you currently have a limit on everything. Limited swipes, minimal or no super likes, and no “go back again” button.

If you have subscribed consider doing it for longer. Just like any other social media, engagement is driven by activity. So the more you swipe the more matches you will gain, and the more chances you will have to turn them into dates.

It's not expensive to sign up, and doing so gives you unlimited “Yes” swipes which means you can go to town and invest hours into making your picks every week or day. It also allows the use of the "go back button" which helps you consider people you have said no on too hastily.

This should increase your level of matches significantly and along with it your potential for more dates every month.

Think about the style of photos you are showing and in what order. If most or all of them are very provocative poses or if you only have one or two photos in total, and they are all very “strong”, you might be overdoing it.

Although many people on the app will enjoy a cheeky image of you. Having too much of a sex oriented profile can put off a lot of the people that would actually consider meeting you otherwise.

For guys the last thing you want is to come across too intimidating, and most girls might be better off not giving off such a “slutty” vibe, as this can put off the type of guys that will offer safe and conventional dates.

Try toning it down by making most of your profile seem friendly and polite, while sneaking in subtle bits of provocation. For example 3 nice and smiley photos, with just one more sexy looking one.

Even if you aim to ask someone out for a coffee, just doing so plainly will likely result in a blow off.

Get matches to take you seriously by waiting for the right moments to throw in smooth date proposals. While the topic of a shared interest is fresh in both your minds is a good example, just after saying something that seems to make them respond enthusiastically is another.

When you subscribe you are allowed to use the return button. Try not to be lazy and ignore it. If you have not yet subscribed, give it some serious consideration as it will enable you to gain a much larger amount of matches.

With the "go back" button, if for a split second you think you may have selected the wrong swipe on a person, remember to use the button! It's unlimited and can help slow you down and rethink your choices. Going back and checking someone out for a split second longer can change your opinion of them. Doing this often will increase your right swipes and give you a higher chance of making more matches.

Make GOOD use of this tool. Even with a subscription you only have a certain amount per day to use. So don't throw them away on your first several swipes. Have an aim with them, and make sure these aims are realistic.

You might be tempted to super like someone you think is way out of your league. The chances are if you do this, this person is going to be one of those people that gets hundreds of matches a week or generally gets a lot of attention. so for many this would not be a very realistic like, and it's a bit of a waste of your limited super like ammo.

So try super liking people who are far less likely to be getting loads of super likes all the time. This way your super like will stand out clearly to them, and it will mean more. Try having a certain type in mind for your super like secret weapon, and try using it on people you think will not be overly popular. But also those that perhaps suggest in their bios that they like whatever type you are. Doing this means you should find an increase in the amount of your super likes saying yes on you back. With these poeple you should be very well matched..

The easiest thing to swipe right on, is a clear image of a pretty face. Even easier is a clear image of a pretty face, that also shows some shoulders, arms and upper body. From this it will take someone only a millisecond to conclude if you are, pretty enough, slim enough and normal enough to appeal to them.

So make it very easy, make your first photo, one that includes your face clearly, and ideally shows off most or all parts of your upper body.

The bio section is very important on Tinder. It can seem not so when you first start because you think no one is really looking at it for every swipe, but actually you might find if you have content, then a lot of your matches will have swiped yes on you because of a certain thing you said in your bio. So it's worth a short.

It's more a preparation for after you have matched, most of the time you're only going to date someone you have connected with through long text conversations. When you start a conversation with someone you will be looking for questions to ask and things to talk about, this is where having a little bio can help significantly.

One line jokes can be attractive at first but also can be too one-dimensional.

Try adding a list of your favorite things, likes and don't likes, your current geographic situation and what you are looking for on Tinder. Try each new idea for a couple days of hard swiping to see how these changes impact your match levels.

This goes for both guys and girls.

The vast majority of women on Tinder really don't like to be asked out before getting to know at least a little about a guy. Most girls are likely to say no or blow off premature invites from men who they have not yet found interesting or had a basic connection with.

Girls if you are keen to get guys to ask you out, you will not have so much trouble in terms of numbers but still you might find the quality of your dates are better if you screne the guys with a little text chat first.

Men instinctively only take you seriously and “chase” you if you're a little harder to get.

Try waiting until the right moment, most of the time this can be after several days of chatting and then when you start talking about a common interest like, the movies, coffee or walking. That's usually a good point to bring up the question.

One of the reasons you might be feeling you don't get enough “action” from the app is the level of your own expectations.

You may be swiping left too hastily for things you see as minor “defects”, and this will greatly reduce the amount of matches you make.

Also when it comes to talking with your matches you might be behaving a little harshly in conversations, not responding often enough or not with enough enthusiasm because you don't see a match as good enough can be a mistake.

Often people are very different in real life to how they come across online, so be careful, you could be passing up on great opportunities for perfectly good dates by simply being a bit ignorant and overly critical.

The opinion of the opposite sex can be an invaluable bit of feedback for your profile. Show some friends your current bio and get them to rate your text, photos and share their ideas about whats hot and what’s not.

Another thing to do would be to turn one of your Tinder matches into a friend to fulfill this function! Pick someone that meets your target audience and ask them what they think of your profile.

Could be a good conversation starter and would actually be a very transparent start to your relationship!

The built in messaging platform on Tinder is quite limited, no photo sharing, ugly emoticons and a buggy sync with many mobile device notification systems.

So to improve the depth and quality of your conversations try inviting matches to join you on whatsapp or direct texting. This is quite common practice now so many matches will be fine with it. as long as you have had a good start to your communication in Tinder so far.

Once you've added them you should see higher responsiveness, as well as the odd photo relating to your topic of discussion, which makes things much more engaging.

If you are not used to texting much it can seem quite daunting or weird engaging with people romantically just by simple texts. The thing is you're dealing with a generation that has grown up doing things this way, so get with it.

Avoid boring one line responses (provocative ones are fine), get your flirt on, say cheeky interesting things, respond to questions with extended answers as well as more questions back, don't just leave it to the other person to start some flames, it takes two.

For a bit of fun, try being way more overly flirty than you are normally comfortable with for your next few matches and see how things progress. You might be surprised by how tolerant and welcoming people are now of this kind of behaviour.

Avoid the habit of using one line for everyone. They might not be able to see you keep using it, but usually these lines have to be designed to suit a wide range of people and this makes them easy to spot.

The terms “cheesy” and “sleazy” may come to mind.

Instead get in the habit of actually picking unique things about a match to compliment them on or bring up in conversation. This way you’re letting them know you are paying them special attention and this leads to much better rapore.

There’s nothing more off putting than someone who doesn't like texting, or can't be bothered to write an interesting response. One word answers, not responding for days and generally being a cold communicator are sure ways to kill a text chat dead.

You have to be good at texting to be able to create dates frequently with matches from Tinder, there is no mistaking it.

Try putting much more effort into being as warm and chatty as possible with your next few matches to see the difference it can make.

You might have been overly forward with your matches recently, this is another sure way to put a lot of normal more conventional people off.

This makes up the vast majority of people on Tinder, only very few rare users are actually up for sex chat and hook ups in an immediate context despite the apps reputation.

So try toning it down, and bringing innuendos and overly sexy talk in gradually. This will be what most people are used to.

Both in your bio and in the conversation, try being very transparent with matches about your aims and intentions.

It can be a great topic full of rich information, but more importantly it lets the other person know exactly what the score is.

You are far more likely to get a date with someone who knows exactly what the situation is, than from someone who is clueless and possibly perceives you as a huge confusing question mark.

If you just have group shots or close up selfies or far away body shots, you are less likely to gain matches from a range of people interested in different things. Boost your chances by trying to have a variety of photo styles.

Some body, some close ups of your face and one or two groups.

This is a confusing and somewhat shady message to give people. If it's the truth, then fair enough, but expect a lot of people to be put off by it. Tinder is an app for dating, specifically designed to make romantic engagement more accessible, fun and more convenient. So everyone on it expects everyone else to be there for the same reason. 

Avoid telling matches you want to take things slow or just be friends, try simply saying you like to date conventionally for some time before seeing how things progress. But most importantly make sure you communicate clearly that your intentions are certainly romantic.

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