Sex drive too low (I live with my partner)

The friction within sex in a literal sense, is a physical issue very common for a lot of people and particularly for many women.

Vaginal dryness can be a leading problem putting a lot of women off sex altogether, and for men it can be just as painful. It's not possible to enjoy something that is hard and brings pain, so you may want to try using one or several of the many lubricants there are on the market.

Silicone lubricants are longer lasting than water based versions. If this still does not help, it might be an idea to consult your doctor about possible therapies relative for your condition.

Masterbation is perfectly healthy in modoration and can be one of the most effective methods of increasing sex drive. When you climax certain chemicals are released into the brain that can help trigger more frequent urges in future. Genrally the more you masterbate the higher your sex drive becomes over time.

For people suffering from overly high sex drives, lowering their level of masturbation is commonly an immediate suggestion, so logically doing it more should help improve yours. However over- masturbation can have some long term negative effects.

Try masterbating significantly more over the course of a couple of weeks than you normally would, and see if the change has a good impact.

For a more detailed overview of the effects of moderate and over-masterbation.

One of the first things a friend or experts like couples and sex therapist would suggest trying right away is making things more fun and spicey.

Make sex more interesting by trying loads of different and new exploits. Varying the styles, role playing, kinky accessories and alternative sexual activities would be common introductory examples.

One of the most common reasons for low sex drive can be that your sex life lacks fire and attention. Perhaps your partner likes repeating the same positions that are not your favourite, you don't feel satisfied enough when it takes place so you lack motivation to begin, or you have yet to experience scenarios that appeal to you sufficiently.

Give new exploits a try for two weeks with your sexual partner or hook ups and be very strict to not attempt the changes at the same time as any other solutions, only this way will you be able to tell if it is having the desired impact on your day to day feelings.

When you have a family, with children and pets wandering in and out of your bedroom at night, allowing this to become routine and habit can be a huge mood killer sexually for you and your partner.

So try locking the door and keeping your bedroom a private place on certain nights, reserving it for a more intimate environment.

Try locking the door and removing all childish or pet related accessories from the room on as many nights within one week as possible to see if this has any effect.

A huge contributor to the problem can be the stalemate or decline in your current relationship. This can cause stress. anxiety and a lack of motivation to satisfy each other. There might be really small things that are lingering in your mind, or your relationship may have been more severely damaged by larger obstacles.

Consider the possibility that you may not be as happy as you once were or hoped to be and think about ways to pay more attention to mending your relationship or seeking expert advice from a couples therapist.

Popular examples of activities to try with your partner can include; taking a hike together, starting a gym class, having a weekly jog together or alternative educational classes like cooking or pot making.

Partaking in such active, team building, fun projects builds emotional connection which can provide good healthy boosts to desire and higher levels of sexulal tension or longing.

Try the ones that both of you will enjoy, avoid ones that only one of you is interested in.

Weight lifting and performing ballistic exercises regularly builds muscle as well as boosts testosterone levels which increases sex drive. Practice heavy weight lifting much more often over the course of a month to see if this has a positive effect.

Porn is designed to arouse, so even if at first you don't like the idea of using it, the content can seriously increase the level of sex drive for frequent users.

The ease of its accessibility makes it a perfectly immdediate idea for anyone to try and explore. You might find certain activities in porn that excite you more than anything you've ever given a go in real life.

This can provide a major boost to your labido right away, try waching more porn over the next few days to see if it helps, explore as many genres and themes as possible before giving up!

Check out this video to get an idea of some common foods that can provide boosts to your sex drive.

If you want to try any of them, make sure you try them one at a time and you pack your diet with each for at least a week per ingredient, so that you have the best chance at seeing which ones work best.

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This applies if you're in a relationship or not: 

If you're in a relationship, your sex drive could be dropping because you have fallen into an unsexy routine that lacks spice. Something as simple as organising a date night each week to get away from the norm and get out and about together can make huge improvements.

If you don't have a partner, the same can still apply. You might just not be having enough face time with potential sex partners. So hit on more people in appropriate ways and in circumstances that offer a good chnace at success to get more dates in the diary.

Just putting a lot of effort into getting out there can rekindle flames that have been dying slowly over long or short periods of time.

Fatigue and stress can be key contributors to having low sex drive. If only one of you is taking too large a share of the work around the house, they will likely be more tired and less motivated to give sexual activity the care and attention it requires.

Share the load to boost your chances of sharing an equal and increased labido.

Dating apps feed a desire we all naturally have for attention and convenience, they also encourage you to imagine having relations with a wide variety of different people in an immediate and realistic time frame.

This can help boost the motivations you need to pursue sexual activity. Try a google search for the best ones the market at the moment, install them on your phone or device and give a bunch of them a go. Then you can decide to invest more time in the ones that work best for you.

You may or may not already do this a lot in your spare time. If you don't, try spending a little more time each day browsing the web for interesting articles, pop culture news and general entertainment content.

You might be surprised at how diversely entertaining the internet can be today, and more importantly how sexually driven a lot of the content you come across will be.

It could be a way to find new things that turn you on, things you might not have thought would do so before you randomly coming across them. Try it for a week and see if it makes a good impact.

A trick used by actors for triggering different emotions. The most easily recognisable being the crying trigger. An actor keeps the most depressing moment he's ever had in his mind, ready to revisit it at any moment, this gives him the ability to cry on command.

Everyone should have a certain thing that turns them on, an idea, a fantasy, whatever it is, it is personal to you and should be the most exciting thing you can think of doing. You may not always be in the mood, but this idea should still be there in your mind, identify it and think about it intensely without distraction.

Once you've done this, save this sexual thought in your mind. Then it's just about copying the actors. You have this single idea constantly at the ready to think about whenever you feel you need to be ready for action. Try applying it to people you meet it real life while you look at them. Imagine doing it with your partner if you have one. If you don't, imagine doing it with people you could realistically engage with, dating app contacts, work mates, people you see and meet on a daily basis.

At first it might seem like a bit of a playful mind game, but if you try it thoroughly over the course of a couple of weeks you might start to notice your desire to pursue the act in real life increases.

One of the most common causes of low sex drive can be a stressful lifestyle. So logically it might make sense for you to try to lower the levels of stress in your life to improve your sexual urges.

This can be a lot easier said than done. One of the easiest ways to de-stress can be to unclutter your life. Think about things you can live without that take up time in your life and consider the option of changing them to save more time. Sports, fitness regimes, housework, excessive working hours, or even the job you do as a whole. You might weigh up which should take priority, your sex life or the career you are currently in.

If you don't think you can commit to any large changes right away, perhaps attempt taking some time off temporarily for a short break. This might give you the chance to identify if in fact it is your day to day lifestyle that is bringing down your labido.

This list of foods is supposed to contain properties that can reduce sex drive for men, the same ingredients could have a similar effect on women. So go through the list and see if any make up large parts of your diet.

If any of them do, try cutting them out one by one to see which if any are having the most powerful effect on lowering your sex drive.

Have a look at this list of foods to avoid. 

It can be argued that almost any food can be linked to stimulating labido’s, however there are a few ideas that have withstood the test of time and keep coming up as popular examples. These famous sexy ingredients may or may not work for you, but it's certainly worth a go.

This simple video covers many of the most recognised Aphrodisiacs that should be widely accessible to most people, it also includes a helpful little scientific reference for each as to exactly how or why they provide the boost.

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