Erectile dysfunction (I am in a relationship)

Spend some time in private trying to float your boat, check out different media, think of different scenarios, different people, try varying physical approaches.

Do this and record what works best, and exactly what steps have the best chance of turning you on enough to reach your most fulfilled erection.

Once you have this method nailed down from your private sessions, share it with your partner or partners in sexual encounters. You may be surprised at how welcoming they are, and how keen they are to help.

Try it and see if this level of communication has a beneficial effect for you.

In marketing or psychology they call it conditioning.

Everyone has a thing that turns them on more than anything else. If something does not come immediately to mind for you, you will have to explore and find it.

Once you have it, concentrate on dreaming up a situation based around it that turns you on immensely and very easily. Keep doing it in private over and over. Then start thinking more and more about it while out and about. Practice it while you are busy and being distracted (of course not while doing anything dangerous like driving or operating heavy machinery).

The thought alone needs to be so arouseing for you that just the thought of it puts you in the mood and gets you going.

Once this thought is firmly established in your mind, you might find it useful bringing it up in your mind for real sexual encounters. Your brain should be conditioned to become more relaxed and aroused by the thought you have developed. Give it a good try and see if it helps.

If your partner is on board, you might then find it especially productive to attempt acting the thought out in real life.

This is a very simple idea that has two main functions.

Firstly it is very common for men to suffer from erectile disfunction due to sexual anxiety. Some men feel under a great amount of pressure to “perform” and this can drive their nervous systems and blood flow to be impacted in the moment.

If you are behind your partner when “getting ready”, psychologically you might feel under significantly less direct pressure, which can help make it easier to relax and gain a healthy erection.

Secondly in conjunction with this, it's also very common for men to enjoy positions from behind. If you are a legs and bum man this is certainly worth a shot. The combination of less psychological pressure and the physicall sexuality of the position can combine well to distinctly improve your chances of achieving a full function.

These things should be very easy to find online and in high street stores that sell sex health or pleasure items. Check out some of these rings from Ann summers

It's really common for many men to lack the ability to sustain an erection. You may have the ability to get it up for moment, before it goes away. The idea with these toys, is to put the ring on right when you have reached your hard peak.

They are designed to fit tightly around the base of the penis, so in effect what they do is prevent blood from leaving the penis in any great hurry. Many of them have vibrator gadgets build it to improve stimulation and provide a greater sensations for your partner. It's always best to practice with one before breaking it out for the real show.

This is a very popular book on Erectile Dysfunction.

Your ability to create a erection has a lot to do with your blood flow. The more you workout and exercise the better condition your heart is in, which means the better your blood flow, and the more able you will be to produce healthy erections.

Increase your exercise levels significantly per week for several weeks and see if the impacts are positive.

A common cause for erectile disfunction is long or short term anxiety. If you have a stressful lifestyle or have been affected by a recent issue, this can be the leading cause of your problems.

Try to work out the aspects of your life that are causing you the most stress, and if at all possible reduce your concentration on them leading up to sex. Plan time off work and away for a trip, to see if having sex away from day to day stress has benefits for your performance.

It might not solve the problem forever but it will help you identify whether or not it is in fact stress that is causing the problem.

Using an iol to provide or receive a massage can apply to many people as an effective method of arousal. But in terms of physical ability, using an oil and reducing friction can be a great way to reduce the amount of strain on the penis and get things going.

When using oils it's advisable to stick to products specifically designed for sexual pleasure. Just using any random oil that's lying around can cause some people irritations and unwanted side effects. It is usually worth finding and purchasing purpose made products.

This is one of the most popular lubricants on amazon.

This might seem strange at first, but another very common cause for sexual dysfunction is a simple lack of blood flow.

If you are constantly wearing tight jeans, trousers or underwear leading up to a sexual encounter (especially if sitting down for hours in these restricting conditions), blood flow to your midsection will be reduced and it may be one of the main factors behind your problems.

Try wearing very comfortable and loose fitting clothing around the waist and below for several hours before engaging in sexual activity, to see if this simple idea has any impact.

Try eating each of these foods for at least a week few to see if any of them have a good impact for you.

See the list of foods here

The more fat you have in your diet, the more fat travels around in your blood stream. Fat in the blood stream lessens the ease of circulation which can be one of the most direct reasons for your dysfunction.

Try cutting fat from your diet completely for a week or two, and see if producing an erection is easier after this time.

If you are in the habit of holding your urine when you need the bathroom, this can have the effect of damaging your erectile function.

For a month try going as soon as you feel the need, and avoid holding it for any length of time as much as possible. This can take some serious planning and forward thinking.

See if the effects become noticeable after 2 - 4 weeks of paying close attention, and relieving the call of nature as quickly as possible.

It is very common for men to have erectile disfunction due to sexual anxiety and “performance” anxiety.

Basically the problem can be that men often think of sex as a challenge or engagement that should have certain objectives and performance goals. This in many men's minds makes performance “failure” a real threat. This pressure not to fail can be at the heart of the problem,

It is often suggested by psychologists that most of us perform best when not under any pressure, when we are relaxed and when we are enjoying what we are doing.

So following this idea, it might help to try changing your mindset towards sex. Avoid thinking about any objectives or goals. Try instead to purely focus on enjoying the moment for yourself.

Forget about pleasing your partner, and “being good in bed”, concentrate completely on the pleasure YOU will get from the session. This might seem rather selfish at first, but if you find it helps your erection health, you and your partner will of course both benefit.

See this article published on askmen for more information on overcoming performance anxiety.